I met Jamar in a club, and we hooked up, went back to one of his places, and had a really fun, and sexual time. I didn't even have a penis yet, and he was so kind about that. And I came like crazy that time. It was the first cum of Second Life.
Over the next couple of weeks we hung out a lot and saw each other almost every day... had SLex each time. And we started using the "L" word and going out to romantic dances. It was nice, and there was the understanding that we were exploring love between us even though we have love with others.
The experience inspired me creatively. I made a sculpture of us in an embrace. Towards the third week we talked about how we were Second Life boyfriends, but also how we were open and still free to love and fuck other people. I would have it no other way, and for him, it was the same.
He started reminding that we had our one month anniversary coming up, so I did something special. I arranged an RP dinner in Second Life where the real-person waiter comes to you and facilitates the night. It was fun, and special.
The day of our one month anniversary came. I made him a ring, as a symbol of my feelings. And after we sat down to RP dinner and ordered, I gave it to him. Immediately after this, he sent the offer of a Second Life "partnership", which I accepted. I assumed this was sort of a "going steady" thing. You know like, being boyfriends. We had a serious talk about what that meant, and how it did not mean that we were exclusive to each other, and that there would be no sadness or hurt feelings if we stumbled upon one another having sex or love with other people.
Part 3:
The second month started well, but almost immediately, we saw each other less. We still occasionally went out to a romantic dance, and had fun and meaningful SLex. But it was not as intense. And I figured this was normal, and in some ways a relief so that i could focus on other interests.
But when we got together, it also became awkward. Sometimes I felt we were following a script. Or that he was. Sometimes , while we were dancing, he would not speak for half an hour, as I was moved around the dance floor with him. I would talk, and he would not respond. And when he returned, he would pick up from where *he* left off .. not responding to the things I had said in between.
And always it was things like "bae , we look so good together" , "You make me so happy". And those things are nice to hear, but there wasn't much substance to the chats ... like about interests, and we never got deep into any meaningful conversations as much as I tried.
At the end of the second month, I sent him a short message saying happy 8 weeks and there was no immediate response to this. There was a simple "miss you" IM that came from him eventually. And I responded to this with the same, including a hug.
Every few days I would send him an IM checking in, asking him how he was ... casual conversation questions like "Did you do anything fun this weekend?". And there was never a response. If he was offline, he didn't respond when he came online. And if he was online, it was not long after I sent my message that he went offline.
This happened throughout this third month.
So, I started getting concerned. And I was committed now to ending the partnership. So I send an IM to him said that I felt we needed to talk. There was no response
I sent a longer email saying that it was probably time to end our partnership and "put it on the shelf to remember fondly". I said that I wanted to remain friends and even occasional lovers, but I really needed to hear from him so we could talk about it, and have some closure. There was no response.
I talked it over with friends, and I decided I needed to give an ultimatum of some sort, and a deadline for myself. So the next IM I sent was saying something like ... look, I haven't heard from you all month and its weird. Please respond. I'm going to cancel our partnership on Friday, but it would be much better if we could chat about it and make sure everything's good, before that. No response.
All through this process ... Jamar still had this message that had always been on his profile that said something like "I met Whystler on this day, and he is my sweet love. We see other people, but Whystler comes first".
I cancelled the partnership on that Friday. And yet ... for a couple of days after ... the message was the same about me on his profile. This was the case even though he was on and offline frequently. It was puzzling that he wouldn't remove it.
I started to be really concerned that perhaps somehow he wasn't seeing my IMs at all. So, I had all kinds of theories, including that maybe someone was controlling some RLV thing about him and not letting him see my messages. So to try to get a message to him, I made a little hidden web page , and copied the chat log between us there. I added a message at the top that said i really needed to talk to him about this, but that this would be my last attempt to try to contact him. I created a PRIM in second life on which I printed the URL for the web page. And I sent that prim to him in second life.
Two more days later, I see that he has removed the message about me on his profile. And I also see that there is a message that he has married someone. Furthermore, looking at this married-person's profile, I noticed that this guy is married to a lot of people in a sort of RP family style thing that he possibly is the head of? I'm not certain. But it's definitely the sort of thing that doesn't interest me.
But the curious thing, is that this fellow , in his profile "pick" about Jamar mentioned that he "locked down" Jamar about a week after Jamar stopped talking and responding to me. So my theory that Jamar is being controlled was strengthened.
And that's where everything is ...